In the first article we talked about the necessity to remove the word Want from your vocabulary. In this article let’s tackle the rest of the four dangerous words you should get rid of.
There is no try. There is only do or do not. Try means never achieving anything. The so called “try” means do not. How many times has someone promised you that they will try to do something, but they ended up not doing it at all? And you can’t blame them because all they said was try, not do. Try has become a polite denial in social circumstances, because it gives the false impression and hope of an attempt to carry out something, but at the same time gives the leeway of not taking actions. Therefore, try is making no choice, taking no responsibility, and carrying out no action. You may as well eliminate it from your vocabulary to be succinct and honest when expressing your desires to the Universe or setting up your personal goals.
The meaning of need is to require (something) because it is essential or very important. It has the connotation of necessity or obligation. You have to, which means you have no choice but to obtain it to satisfy your need. If you need anything, that means that you lack the thing, and there’s desperation in getting it. When you convey to the Universe what you need, all you are saying is the lack of it, and you are frustrated about not having it. The energy you are tuning in is not in line with acquiring what you desire but the very opposite.
Have you ever noticed how frequently people use this word unconsciously?
I want a new car, but I don’t have the money.
I want a new job, but I am too old to switch jobs.
I would like to have a puppy, but I don’t like taking care of one.
I want to travel the world, but I don’t have enough time.
In the first half of the sentence they express the desire to get something or describe something positive and desirable, then in the second half of the sentence there comes the “but” listing all the difficulties of achieving it or reasons why they can’t have it. The emphasis is always the second half. If you are an efficient listener, you may as well totally ignore the first part of what they desire and only listen to the words after the “but”.
When but comes after want, what you are expressing is impossibilities of getting what you want. How many people express their desires to the Universe this way? It seems that they are expressing their desires for manifestation, but they are doing just the opposite of pushing it away. All you are doing is telling the Universe the reasons you can’t have what you want, which powerfully overrides what you said you desired.
Luckily the vast majority of people are awakening to the concept of “but” and how it sabotages our desires.
This last word is quite subtle and you may be surprised why “why” is on the list of words to eliminate from your vocabulary. Have you ever been corned by young children by their endless questions of “why?” You give an answer to the first question they asked, then they ask “why,” regarding the answer you gave them. You give another answer then there comes another why. So on and so forth. There is no end, and you feel that you are running in circles without making progress.
Asking whys does not change the situation itself. Only the “how” and “what” questions can bring out changes. You can ask yourself a thousand times: “Why am I this way?” You may come up with the possible answers: “Because of my childhood traumas” or “Because so and so made me this way”, or as vague and useless as “Because it is the way I am.” You see whatever the reason is behind the why it does not change you at all. It brings you to the beginning when you ask why questions, and you will be running in circles without solving anything.
But the moment when you rephrase your question to “How can I change the way I am?” or “What can I do to change how I feel?” you start to search for solutions.
To recap, the five words to eliminate from vocabulary to make you much more fulfilled are:
Again, words are used to communicate our meanings. The most important part is to monitor the messages you are expressing, check your feelings and emotions. You may eliminate these words from your language but still mentally fill them in, then it won’t do you any good. On the other hand, you can still use these words when absolutely necessary, but it’s better that you are conscious of the usage and understand the feelings and emotions that you have. Become more conscious of the words you use and the true ideas you convey, become the master of your own thought process. You will be able to obtain what you pictured effortlessly!