Let’s say you are someone who tends to lose their temper. You got angry so easily but afterwards you regret that you were not able to control your temper. How often do you hear people give advice and say to you, “think in a different way so you don’t become angry?” Do you think it’s going to work? Do you really have control while you are “trapped” in a negative emotion? Or worse still, we are taught to suppress the “bad” emotions.

Maybe you have heard that you can never destroy energy, you can only Transform it from one form to another. It is a natural law of the Universe, and with simple physics knowledge you know that it is true. Think about steam engines. The heat coming from the fire heats up the water. The water boils and becomes steam. The steam pushes the train to motion. In this example, the energy transformed from heat to motion. You can also easily relate to the process of generating electricity from waterfall or wind, and the use of electricity for electronics and appliances. Energy was never destroyed but only transformed from one form to another.

If you understand this simple concept, you will also understand that since emotions are energies too, they too cannot be suppressed or destroyed but only can transcend from one type of energy to another. You can only transcend an emotion to a different one, and that’s how you control your emotions.

What’s the benefit of knowing this? Well, when you learn how to transcend your emotions you will become the master of your own mind. You will stop yourself on the tracks of negative emotions and you will stop engaging with your emotions unconsciously. You will be able to separate your essence from your emotions. You will gain control of how you want to feel. This in turn will propel you to your desires, be it better health or success. 

How can you transcend your emotions? There are 3 steps to achieve it.

1. Recognize Your Emotions

Why is recognizing your emotions so important? Albert Einstein once said,

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

Similarly, if you cannot manage to rise above the level of consciousness that generate the emotions, you won’t be able to transcend it. Recognizing your emotions requires you to somewhat dissociate from your emotions, giving solving the “problem” a chance.

Take anger for example. If you go with the anger and identify yourself with the emotions, you will be taken away by the emotion. You will be “stuck” in this emotion and live the “reality” of it. You will feel there is no way out but being angry; you won’t see things in a more beneficial perspective because it won’t be an option in your mind. In other word, you do not have control.

Therefore, to recognize your emotions is the first step in transcending the negative emotion.

How do you recognize your emotions?

It is a similar process as training your mind to create lucid dreams. To become lucid in your dreams you have to come to recognize that you are dreaming while caught up in a dream. The way to train your mind is to frequently ask yourself “Am I dreaming right now?” Your habit of constantly checking your conscience in your regular everyday awareness will be carried out to while you are in other states of mind, in this case your dream state. Therefore, in your dream state you also ask yourself, “Am I dreaming?” Then come to the point that you recognize that you are indeed in a dream. From there you can consciously control how your dream reality deploys, instead of living the reality of a dream unknowingly.

In a similar way, you frequently ask yourself how am I feeling, what emotions do I hold right now. Once you establish this habit of constantly checking your conscience in your regular everyday awareness, it will be carried out to your other states of mind, such as while you are in anger. Amid your anger that’s so explosive, instead of being totally carried away by this negative emotion you will be able to, no matter how short that window is, ask yourself what emotions do I hold right now. You recognize that you are in anger. In other words, you caught yourself trapped in anger. It raises you above the consciousness of your negative emotion where further change can occur. Recognizing your emotions is like opening a crack to a locked door. By becoming aware of your emotion, you create the temporary dissociation from the negative emotion itself, which will allow the following steps to happen that eventually lead to transcend the emotion to a positive and beneficial one.

2. Realize Your Choices

After you recognize your emotions, you are opened up to choices. Ask yourself what options do you have right now? According to Abraham Hicks, a channeled higher entity being, there are 22 levels of emotions from the lowest to highest vibrations. Find the rung of emotional ladder where you are frequently at, what’s one step above it? What’s two steps above it? What’s three steps above it? These are most likely your best choices, which I will explain in the next section.

3. Transcend Your Emotions

Transcending your emotions requires you to pull yourself up the emotional rung. All it takes is to choose. With the choices that you realized that you have, you can choose a better feeling, a better emotion as far as your mind can possibly accept at that moment. You may not be able to pull yourself too much further up from where you were on the emotional ladder when you are in a negative emotion, because your mind may not be open enough for higher up emotions, but you can take one step a time and still make a positive change, which then opens up more opportunities.

As said in Ask and It is given, Abraham Hicks said,

You can only attract thoughts within your vibrational range.

Therefore, it may not be feasible to jump from anger to joy, but you can take a small step first which is within range of your vibrations. Step by step you will climb up the emotional ladder. 

Ask yourself, how can I feel better even just a little bit? What is one good thing in the situation that you are in? Are there other interpretations of what happened other than the one that upset you? What is one thing that you are grateful for? If everything is a lesson, which it is indeed, what is the lesson for you right now?

The alternative of transcending emotions is to store them in your bodily parts, which I am sure is not what you want to do. Different organs may have different affinities for different emotions. For example, anger harms the liver in general. There are also subtleties as to the source and nature of the emotion. For example, if it is related to male-female negative romantic relationships it tends to store in reproductive organs, not surprisingly. It is very harmful to the body and may manifest to debilitating illnesses over time. Therefore, transcending emotions is a useful skill for life, and might be the best option for the vast majority.

Disengage yourself from a negative emotion and opening up your mind to possibilities and alternative interpretations, realizing that choices of feelings and emotions are at your disposal is an essential skill to learn in life. Mastering these 3 steps to transcend your emotions will help you navigate life with ease and joy.